Steve Nelms, of Plano, Texas, calculated that he cannot afford for his wife, Glory, to be a stay-at-home mom to their 2-year-old son, Ezra.
“Now, I don’t at all mean to offend anyone with this post. I just have to say that for me personally, I can’t afford it,” Nelms wrote on his popular blog, “We Are Glory.”
“I’d like to explain exactly what I mean by that so that no one thinks I’m in any way devaluing Stay-At-Home Moms,” he continued.
Nelms itemized every job his wife performs and added the US baseline salary for each position, from child care ($36,660) to cleaning ($5,200) to cooking ($12,480). The grand total of his wife’s efforts comes out to a whopping $73,690 per year.
“In short, I can’t afford for my wife to stay at home. And I’ve tragically failed to show my wife the appreciation that she deserves. She loves me, loves our son, and loves our family, so obviously she isn’t doing any of those things for a paycheck or even for recognition,” Nelms wrote. “But it certainly doesn’t hurt to know that as a Stay-At-Home Mom her appraised salary is nearly double my actual income. So in a very weird way, this is my way of saying how much I value my wife as the mother of my child and the one who always has my back no matter what. You are more precious than rubies. And I can’t afford you.”
“It was hard to stay at home for a reason. It wasn’t necessarily the workload,” Glory told ABC News. “It was everything that came with losing that paycheck, losing that job, losing the connection with other people in the world.”
“It was never intended to say one way of doing it was right or wrong. It was simply a reflection of how our family dynamic works,” he told ABC News. “It was meant to show my wife appreciation.”
“I’d love for my nagging husband to read this,” said one comment. “All he does is gripe for me to get a job and expect me to somehow clean/feed/care for my children all at the same time.”
“It’s supposed to be a partnership with each contributing equally but obviously with their own unique skills, not a place of employment with one side of the accounting left blank,” argued another viewer.